It is pretty safe to say that the stress and chaos of the past two years are far beyond anything we have ever experienced. It’s no wonder that more and more people are looking for ways to reduce stress and lead much less chaotic lives.
Getting to that point can be challenging, but there are several things you can start doing right away that will help you live stress-free in a chaotic world. Let’s jump into it.
I think one of the most important things to realize is that a chaotic world is just that…it’s the world. That doesn’t mean that it must be your life as well. It is one of the hardest things to understand, but in reality, it’s the simplest to implement.
Once you understand that your life does not haveto be influenced by the chaos, you can start doing other things that can help keep you stress-free.
With social media, it has become easier to look at other people’s lives and compare them to your own. That can cause a lot of stress!
Don’t do it.
It’s important to remember that most people, even close, real-life friends, only post the good stuff on social media. You rarely see about the bad days where the kids are terrors, and everything goes wrong. So just be aware that you might be trying to compete with an idea that doesn’t exist.
What works for me may not work for you. Frankly, I don’t think I have ever said that I have foolproof ideas. I offer suggestions based on what has worked for my family in the hopes that it may work for you as well. I also try to be honest about what I’ve messed up and this helps people avoid making the same mistakes, which reduces stress.
But none of that contains guarantees. You should figure out what is best for you and your family and go with that.
There is a quote that is as follows: “Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. And today? Today is a gift. That’s why we call it the present.” It’s usually attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt but there are questions as to who originally said it.
Regardless, the message is that we need to create and cherish current moments. There is no sense in dwelling on the past because what’s done is done. If mistakes were made, we should learn from them and move on. Avoid the stress and don’t dwell on and worry about things that we can’t change.
Likewise, we cannot necessarily control the future. We can plan, we can hope, we can take steps that may lead us to good things, but life is unpredictable and there’s no way of knowing if our plans will come to fruition. But we can’t worry about that either because gameplaying possible problems can drive you crazy.
Side note: I know that I’ve mentioned trying to figure out potential pitfalls when it comes to a business plan, but I see that as totally different from general life. With a business plan, you have more control over what occurs. In life, there are many more factors at play and you can’t control all of them.
The point is that the present is what we are given and that’s where we can make a difference. The choices we make today can lead to better things tomorrow.
To make those choices, you need to be aware of what is going on around you. Again, social media can be a huge distraction and can keep you from recognizing those important moments. So, put down the phone and watch your kid’s soccer game. Step away from television and plan a fun outing with your family.
Help your kids to understand what it means to be “in the moment” and you’ll help them build a solid foundation for happiness in their own lives.
Honestly, life is too short to deal with things that make you miserable. And this applies to everything from a job to friends to toxic family members. I’m not saying it’s as simple as cutting it all out but think about the things that are easiest to remove and start there.
For example, do you have a Facebook friend (here we are with social media again) who you have never met in real life but who always seems to bring drama either on her feed or your own? Weigh your options and decide whether she is worth staying “friends” with…I’m betting your stress level might go down if you remove her from your feed.
And if unfriending her might cause other issues (she’s a co-worker), just unfollow her. That way you still show as friends, but you don’t see her stressful posts when you look at your own feed.
Take time out of your day or week to do things that you love. It doesn’t matter if it’s reading a book, taking a class, attending a performance, or volunteering your time. Focusing on something you want to do that makes you happy can be instrumental in improving your overall outlook on life.
There is no way we can stop the world from being chaotic and worrying about things that are out of your control is beyond stressful. You need to find a way to stay informed so you can plan appropriately without letting it all influence your life. It’s not an easy task, but finding the balance, living your own life in the moment, and doing things that make you happy will help you have a good start.
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