July 06, 2020

I used to scoff at “self-help” books. But six years ago, I was challenge to read “The Slight Edge” by Jeff Olsen, and it changed everything for me.

I hadn’t realized how stuck, how complacent I had become until confronted by the words in this book. I was motivated and inspired to create new habits, establish new goals, and believe I could create the life of my dreams.

Today, I want to share some of my favorite books I’ve read in the last few months.

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I know that with your busy schedule, it feels like you just don't have time to sit down and read. But there is something just SO underrated about the quiet calm of picking up a book, cozying up with some hot coffee, and gaining knowledge...while having a moment to yourself. So without further ado, here are the self-help book recommendations:

1. "Under Our Skin" by Benjamin Watson

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I read the book “Under Our Skin” by Benjamin Watson three years ago. It was given to me by Dr. David Doering and it impacted me in a massive way. . . There was so much I didn’t know. There was so much I didn’t understand. There is so much I will NEVER understand. But I want to know more. I want to not just know, but DO. . . And to be honest I don’t know exactly what that looks like, but I know that it means I need to first look within. I need to search my own heart for hidden attitudes, hidden assumptions…for the racism (yes, I said it) that may secretly lurk deep within me. . . Before reading this book, I would have never considered that there was racism inside of me. I would have quickly brushed the word aside and dismissed it. But the author challenges me to look harder. He says, “You and I are both guilty. We all have malice deep down. We all harbor wrong attitudes towards others. At its core, the issue is not about race. It’s about the human heart.” . . My human heart is heavy. I believe we can do better, I believe we can be better. But I’m also inclined to agree with Benjamin Watson when he says, “Nothing will change unless God changes our hearts and minds.” . . A few mornings ago, I was praying and feeling overwhelmed by the war in front of us as a nation. I was feeling overwhelmed with the WHYs and the HOWs. Why does this continue to happen? How will we ever change it? . . “There is a sound that changes things The sound of His people on their knees Oh wake up you slumbering It's time to worship Him And when He moves And when we pray Where stood a wall now stands a way Where every promise is amen And when He moves Make no mistake The bowels of hell begin to shake All hail the Lord all hail the King” Hillsong (Awake My Soul) . . I don’t have answers. But I will continue to ask questions. “Under Our Skin” was such a game-changing first step for me in learning more. I highly recommend it.

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The tagline for this book is "getting real about race" — meaning, addressing some of the racial biases and assumptions that we all struggle with. The HIDDEN attitudes. Now, I know this is an uncomfortable topic because we want to believe that we don't have a racist bone in our body.

But I mean it when I say that this is a book we should read, no matter how difficult it may be to confront. There are little subconscious things that we can all work on. God is constantly challenging us to question our pre-existing assumptions, and listen to others with compassion. And the difficulty of facing this is precisely what makes it one of my favorite self-help book recommendations.

2. "Everything is Figureoutable" by Marie Forleo

My thoughts: https://www.instagram.com/tv/B_BY3CAptRE/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet

The first question you probably have looking at this title is, "'Figureoutable'? Why smash words together like that?"

Well, because the author's mother always told her, "Everything is figureoutable."

And when I read that myself, something just clicked in me. It’s a simple and memorable mantra. But more than that, it’s empowering because everything really IS figureoutable.

As Forleo explains, that doesn't mean that something is easy. The word "figureoutable" just means that something is POSSIBLE after a lot of time, planning, and effort. I think the word does a good job of encompassing something that is complex, but doable.

3. "Get Out of Your Head" by Jennie Allen

This book is all about how our thoughts shape our behaviors.

Jennie Allen is one of my favorite authors and this is her newest book. She talks about how the biggest battle we face is between our own ears. She teaches us how to stop the negative thoughts that can spiral out of control.

And she shows us how, with God’s help, we can replace those negative thought patterns with positive ones.

These are three books I keep gravitating toward, even as I read others! I've been so moved by these books and they really are a gift.

I'm curious, what books have impacted you in a big way, whether non-fiction or fiction? I'm always looking for new book recommendations! Tell me more in the comments below.

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